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Dealing
with a Disclosure
The
following points give guidance on how trainers should deal with
disclosures made to them:
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Do not promise confidentiality.
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Explain who you will have to tell and why.
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Listen to what is being said, without displaying shock or
disbelief.
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Accept what is being said.
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Allow the child to talk freely, limit any questions to a
minimum. Seek only to clarify and strictly avoid leading the child or
adult who has made the approach by making suggestions or introducing
your own ideas into what may have happened.
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Never ask questions such as "Did he do X to you?"
Instead use a minimum number of questions of the "Tell me what
happened" type.
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If it is an adult making the approach and it becomes obvious
that they are making a significant allegation concerning either abuse or
neglect, you may feel it appropriate to stop them and refer to the
designated trainer, unless he is the subject of the allegation, to avoid
repetition of the details.
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Be especially careful to distinguish between fact and opinion.
Note also any noticeable non-verbal behaviour.
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Reassure the child but do not make promises that you cannot
keep.
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Reassure the child that what has happened is not their fault.
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Stress that the child has done the right thing by telling you.
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Do not enter the child’s account by condemning or
criticising the perpetrator.
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